Should we be worried?

I know I just want to keep working to control the things I can. Make progress every day.

Have you ever woken up worried?

Who hasn’t?

“I haven’t done this.” “I haven’t done that.” “We can’t do this.” “I don’t know how to do that.”

When I have put the word YET on the end of those sentences, it’s changed the game for me. Maybe it doesn’t get me back to sleep right away, but the jolt to my mindset is crucial.

Shifting language can have an immediate effect on our anxiety over things we haven’t done or don’t know how to do. Moving towards a growth mindset is moving towards optimism and hope, and it leaves space for the work necessary to make change happen. With the girls I coach, I want them to strive for excellence, push their limits, and keep trying. I’m not interested in chasing perfection. I want to hear them saying, I’m not where I want to be YET with my game/grades/scores… and then hear about how they are going to TRY.

From student athletes, coaches, and family members, I hear on a weekly basis:

My stickwork isn’t good enough.

I don’t know how to do this homework.

I haven’t passed the run test.

I don’t know what I should write this paper on.

I haven’t gotten an offer.

I can’t afford a house.

My children aren’t tough enough.

My daughter hasn’t been recruited.

We haven’t won the case.

She didn’t get the votes.

We don’t have equal access.

They haven’t found the cure.

I haven’t found a way to get a full night’s sleep.

The point is: we haven’t figured it all out… YET.

I know I just want to keep working to control the things I can. Make progress every day. Start with getting better. And remember to add the word YET to these thoughts. I will get there. You will get there. We just haven’t gotten there YET.

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